Intimate Encounters on Plenty of Fish

Like most online dating sites,, offers an option for what's referred to as "Intimate Encounters." This particular option, as with most free dating sites (CraigsList for example), is basically a booty call for a one night stand. Not that I'm particularly into this type of thing, but I have noticed that there are a number of discussions regarding the intimate encounters aspect of Plenty of Fish lately. Also, I want to make it clear before I go any further that this site isn't about getting one night stands from online dating sites, however, it's still an interesting topic in my opinion, so lets talk about it.

The first big thing that caught my eye was an article in the News of the World. The article describes a woman who is really into online dating, but not just any regular old dating. She has gone out and slept with over 200 of her online dates! Here are a few choice quotes from the article:

"On average, she beds a different man every FIVE DAYS. She’s even had sex with THREE of them in ONE DAY...

...She admits: “I can’t explain the buzz I get from meeting someone for the first time and knowing that in a couple of hours we’ll be ripping each other’s clothes off. It’s addictive."

and here's her picture:

Now here's the thing, she uses two sites for bedding men, and plentyoffish. Yes, there are actually women on Plenty of Fish who are simply out for a one night hook-up. This may seem unfathomable to most men who have used PlentyofFish, as most of them can barely get a response to their email messages let alone a one night stand with an attractive woman, but there is at least one woman on the site who is ready and willing.

Of course this is just one woman. She must be an outlier, correct? Well, I'm not so sure. I'm reminded of a post I wrote a few months ago about the promiscuity of women online. It talks about a recent trend of Intimate Encounters which the founder of Plenty of Fish, Markus Frind, noticed. The trend basically showed that since 2004, the number of women on the site who selected the "intimate encounter" option went from 9% of women up to 18%. Now 18% is nothing to sneeze at. To put it into perspective, at this moment there are 112,382 online, which means approximately 20 thousand of those are looking for an intimate encounter. Just a simple search within ten miles of my zip code shows 74 women online who have chose the intimate encounter option.

Now, I know what you are thinking. All the women looking for intimate encounters are likely to be ugly or have some other abnormality. The argument being that why would an attractive girl need to use an online dating site if she is just looking to "hook-up" for the night. She could simply go out to the nearest bar and wait for the men to flock to her. Again, I don't think that is the case. A quick glance at my IE search results shows a number of attractive women in the pictures.

Also, there was an excellent post by one woman on the message boards, which gave a good reason as to why women would use plentyoffish for finding intimate encounters:

"Okay first of all you don't have to be ugly to want to have to have an intimate encounter -

  1. Maybe getting thrown up on or possibly killed by some random dude at the bar isn't appealing.
  2. Maybe you are too busy to date but have a kicking sex drive
  3. Maybe you are a person who owns their sexuality and doesn't let anyone else define what is right for you- you decide for yourself and you take it!
  4. Maybe looking online gives you a chance to take as much time as you want to to get to know that person.
  5. Maybe you are looking for a regular, a boy toy, a maintenance man.
  6. Maybe if you have these close minded ideas about the modern women, you are too ugly for them to sleep with you!

So guess what - I've done at least one of these things and I am not ashamed to admit it. I have needs, wants and desires and I don't care if someone else doesn't agree. I am not saying its a permanent solution, I am just saying its time to cut the crap and stop making women out to be these holy beings that can't get their swerve on like guys do. You guys can't have it both ways and women need to stop bowing to such pretentious ideas, its much more liberating when you take your sexuality into your own hands and that doesn't make you a slut. Don't knock it until you try it, I embrace my sexuality as long as I do it responsibly and I highly recommend opening that "Pandora's box" to any women who hasn't."

This is just one example, but if you search through the forums even more, you will find other women who freely admit that they are just out for a hook-up.

Looking at all the evidence shown above, it does appear that the "intimate encounter" market on Plenty of Fish is active and could possibly provide results for those that are inclined to this type of online dating. Actually getting the date or rather, the encounter, is a whole other subject on it's own.

Has anyone out there ever gotten good results from the intimate encounter option? Let me know in the comments.


  1. I won't judge. I think it is great. To be honest, I am a little intimidated by a woman that is not constrained by so-called societies rules.

    As much as I have always wanted to try online dating; I have never been single long enough. Call me strange, but I don't like cheating on my women.

  2. @Chris
    Well, it seems that if you are good at finding relationships outside of the Interwebs then you are probably way better off than most men, and you'd likely be wasting your time with online dating.

  3. Anonymous8:07 PM

    this pof is interesting never dull when you se there pictures the look good until you meet them some look like boat anchors and are beached whales that have ran ashore i have met some real nice people on this pof i talk to them aanything i cant lift i throw it back to the sea from leroy

  4. @Anon,
    I imagine you are cleaning up on POF, given your rebellious nature of refusing to use punctuation.

  5. irish bob10:11 AM

    I have been with a lot of women from pof, about 30+ at the last count.

    And i have fucked 24 of those - 16 on the first night, ok, so about 9 of those i fucked were gut buckets, but when a guys sack is full he has to empty it right?

    I have no morals when fucking, so i'm in favour of sites like pof - a one nite stand is superb if all you want to do is empty your nut sack.

    And lets face it weve all fucked a few skanks in our time. Hehe :)

    1. Anonymous6:12 PM

      well said..

  6. Anonymous4:33 AM

    The stupidest thing on POF is, letting chicks select to block users who have messaged someone looking for an intimate encounter.

    How is it any of their business who you have messaged>?

  7. Anonymous1:10 AM

    I object to your position, actually. Do a search thru POF. MUCH fewer than 8% (18% - yeah right) are looking for intimate encounter. Take the women who are below-par on looks, and you get about 1% if you're lucky in your area. IF you're lucky.

    The post you refer to -- her online name was 'anomaly' -- which is just that. An anomaly. Many women who ARE open for such rolls in the hay don't put "Intimiate Encounter", they just put Hang Out or Friends, usually. It's an image thing -- and very very very few women are willing to do that with anything close to shades of beauty about them.

  8. Anonymous8:46 PM

    Would a female know if (me specifically) I emailed someone looking for an intimate encounter

  9. I'm not judging but I don't applaud promiscuity especially with AIDS, Herpes, Hep C, warts, etc..I have a VERY healthy sex drive; at times its quite irriating, but I can abstain as anyone can and being a Christian and a parent, I do not believe in "one-nighters"....The Bible hasnt changed and I still believe in a greater, all-knowing being and that a lot of issues such as unwanted pregnancy's and diseases would not happen if we would not constantly be looking for an instant high..And what kind of example would I set for my child if I did that?...But, many men and women do and to each his own and I do agree that women should not be looked upon as sluts while men praised for such acts..But, still you could end-up for way more than you bargained for health-wise and safety-wise while looking for your thrill.

    1. Lisa, I would agree with you as to " no one-nighters" i am also looking for someone who wants more out a relationship than "wham bam thank you mam." I am STD free and plan on staying that way. I also feel that men should treat women with the utmost respect...should women call men sluts, too? Everyones health should play an important role, ask before playing...its your body ..respect it.

  10. Anonymous4:01 PM

    Guys like Irish Bob are the reason I won't accept IM requests and block the "intimate encounters" guys. I'm not averse to a quick hop in the sack with the right man, but the ones who brag about how many women they've "fucked", as if having sex with anything that will stand still long enough is some kind of measure of their virility, are just sad. And probably diseased.

  11. Anonymous3:03 AM

    I had become a member, created a profile and sent a few brief how do ya do's. I also took a peek at some pics on that were in the intimate encounter list. I posted i think one message to one saying "wow" you're hot." that's pretty much it.
    Then later I sent messages out to regular girls I actually wanted to get to know. I was'nt getting anything back. Apparently because I sent this message I am now blocked. Or maybe they know I sent a message to an intimate encounter person. Sucks. I had to cancel. I'm pretty bummed out.

  12. Anonymous3:29 PM

    0 responses for int enc but have been contacted by women who saw my photo at an adult site 5 times in 3 yrs.5/5 on dates 2/5 on scoring.

  13. Believe it or not...

    I accidently sent a casual email to a beautiful girl on POF... As I realized when I thoroughly read through her profile it turned out that she is looking for an intimate encounter. I thought about this too....

    So does a good girl know right away when i try to contact her? Does my profile state that I had contacted a women looking for an intimate encounter? I need an answer! I really don't wanna have to go through the whole sign-up process all over again.. :S Mybe it's just me, but I just got different morals & values i guess, or perhaps some at all. So whatever. I've had my fun thoughout life - dickin around, I'm there for a different reason today.

  14. @Steve,
    It probably isn't a big deal if you only contacted one girl listed as looking for Intimate Encounters since I believe the algorithm that POF uses only kicks in if you message multiple users with Intimate Encounters but I don't know what that number is.

    Also, I don't think that it would show or be obvious when you message any other girls. The only thing that happens is if you do get flagged as seeking intimate encounters then you get blocked by those women who purposely put those blocks up. And if you are in fact being blocked then there is nothing you can do to change it except for deleting the account and starting over again, unfortunately.

  15. Anonymous10:48 PM

    I would totally agree with Irish Bob, having never used IE and knocking them down easily within 2 dates. Ironically, when a woman says in her profile she isn't looking for a 1 night stand, it's because she feels guilty about having so many. They are the easiest marks.

  16. Anonymous2:55 AM

    Intimate encounter ahahahahahah. The stupidest thing on pof is just that. It's sad for me to say i try to meet sexy women to date and have sex with and I end up meeting them fucking them usually that day and then that's it. Now its not because i suck i fuck the he'll out of them so my point in all of this is most of these women i get laid and no relationship put looking for a relationship on there profile and it ended up as just a one night stand with cuddling and hanging out a little bit but never turning into anything steady. A lot of women don't mind intimate encounters but there not gonna post that on there profile a women accepts and invitation to come over and spend the night well that's an intimate
    encounter. Over several years I've met probably 150 women crazy right.

  17. Anonymous7:13 AM

    Every woman I have met on POF I have ended up fucking either on the first date or second date - even when I dont fuck them on the first date. Yesterday I met a woman - we went for lunch and then for a walk - we found a quite spot away form prying eyes - within minutes she was sucking my cock - I didn't fuck her because she was on her monthlys - I'm going to go back and fuck her next week. She claimed to be separated but i noticed the ring mark on her finger lol

  18. Anonymous6:59 AM


    Stopped reading at "being a Christian and a parent..."

  19. Anonymous8:12 PM

    I have been on POF for 1 year now and every date i've had in multiple cities all want sex. If you dont put out quick, they become disinterested and make exit excuses. Never call again, never email or chat again. I am beautifu, smart, honest and respectful and I cant even get a second date. lol I give up. lol

  20. Anonymous10:49 AM

    I have tried a little experiment of my own... I would put IE and i would get swarms of messages.. but when i put friends and hang out.. nothing... I am a female average looking...I found that interesting.

  21. Anonymous5:47 PM

    CC I find that looking for relationship is the kiss of death, but if you just want to fuck game on.

  22. Anonymous4:04 PM

    im disgusted how men can treat woman like a piece of meat ,its disgusting the way they speak about ,fucking ,its making love and men like this are vulger and have nt been brought up to respect woman ,sad

  23. Anonymous8:00 PM

    I copy and paste the same extremely well written message to all the girls on pof. In my inbox I have around 10 or 11 women between the ages of 18 and 24. Most of them or 7's but a couple are a solid 8's. For the record, I am fairly handsome and in good but not great shape and have no problem picking up dates. I love sex and happen to be great at it and frankly nothing is more rewarding than either pussy or money. I know what I like and I don't give a fuck about whatever morals or societal ethics I step on.

    Men use women. Women use men.

  24. Anonymous11:46 AM

    well put.
    everyone needs to take his and her societal ethics and shuv it

    I think its funny. how honesty gets a person no merit, but lies... pretending that you are above a one night stand or intimate encounter is bull.

    And to the people who want to put a label on those who are honest and would appreciate so called casual or intimate encounters, ie ho slut skank, thats bull too! IT SHOULD BE OF NO ONES concern who some one is or in not sexing.



  25. Anonymous4:40 PM

    I agree with the fact that people should have choice but I don't appreciate being contacted by someone who WANs IE when I'm not in that category. Stay in ur own category.


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