tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163602876288989368.post3301263660426742636..comments2023-06-29T08:30:55.553-04:00Comments on Plenty of Fish Dating Tips: Social Proof in Online Dating ProfilesMatthewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01798080306848759362noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163602876288989368.post-1831056064795362132010-05-05T09:13:07.394-04:002010-05-05T09:13:07.394-04:00These are some great ideas on using social proof t...These are some great ideas on using social proof to get more online dating success! As a dating coach, I'd like to add one of my own tips:<br /><br />Link to your own personal blog on your online dating profile.<br /><br />Why?<br /><br />On your own blog, you can do anything you want!<br /><br />- Put photos of you and your family on the blog<br />- Put photos of you and your friends (including female friends) on the blog<br />- Some photos of you and your colleagues<br />- You can write blogs of how you did XYZ with your family/friends or whatever<br /><br />These all create social proof... AND... everyone who comments on one of your blogs?<br /><br />Creates social proof for you too!<br /><br />There's much more you can do by linking to your own blog: you can put photos on it of you growing up for example.<br /><br />The secret here is that the better someone feels she knows you (and the better she likes what she reads/sees), the easier she'll go out on a date with you.<br /><br />Women decide how far things go at the end of the day based on how comfortable they feel around you as a man, how safe they feel around you, and on how trustworthy you seem to be.<br /><br />Nothing makes a woman feel these 3 things better than a personal blog that tells your life's story.<br /><br />To More Dating Success,<br /><br />Dennis Miedema<br />Win With WomenDennis Miedemahttp://www.win-with-women.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163602876288989368.post-51941592226863732032009-11-21T08:35:03.038-05:002009-11-21T08:35:03.038-05:00I'd like to mention that I saw a few attractiv...I'd like to mention that I saw a few attractive or "slutty" girls with shoddy profiles and a ridiculous number of favourites, which actually turned me away from them. I don't feel there is even a chance she'd care for my message, much less read my profile and be interested in me with busloads of men flying at her hourly. On the other hand, maybe not being a perv like most of those men would make me stick out. However, she's probably asking for all that.Jakenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163602876288989368.post-59612447404812172432009-06-08T11:05:56.542-04:002009-06-08T11:05:56.542-04:00I love that book by Robert Cialdini! I heart socia...I love that book by Robert Cialdini! I heart social psychology! Foot in the door technique, the power of signing a petition, used car salesman tricks... Networking is important.<br /><br />There should be canned laughter on some of the dating profiles I've seen. :)Kendra Hollidayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01854949040842771326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163602876288989368.post-41749971811709551472009-06-05T13:48:47.905-04:002009-06-05T13:48:47.905-04:00My friend is a club promoter who hangs out with mo...My friend is a club promoter who hangs out with models and famous people. You can bet that he has those pictures up on his profile! Even if you don't have this kind of access, you can still put up pictures with you and girls doing different things.Peacockhttp://www.latinstylez.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5163602876288989368.post-7017478161656007182009-05-23T14:19:10.765-04:002009-05-23T14:19:10.765-04:00In online dating, there is such as absence of real...In online dating, there is such as absence of real information, social proof or proof by association or demonstration carries significant weight. <br />--<br />It is only effective in the absence of real information of course. This fact can be defeating for some people. For instance, people who have achieved a certain level in life, whether personal, business or other WILL NOT be swayed by this effect, as they are aware of their own realities. Social proof, when used in this way is a form of confidence bluff and as such will only work on those of a lesser level of achievement or whatever the bluff is addressing. That is, the bluff will only work on those that are easily impressed. <br />--<br />You will find, people on dating sites who do indeed bring a lot of the table, will not push out the social proof factor, as they assume, a person they would be interested in, will not be impressed and hence LOWER than own social proof factor. Of course this is a form of establishing social proof as well. <br />--<br />Looking through online dating sites to see how people present themselves is quite interesting. I see many people (male/female) making such obvious mistakes of presentation and targeting. The really interesting part is, IF, how you choose to present yourself is significantly different the a member of the opposite sex, THEN they will see each other as incompatible, even though the is no reason to reach that conclusion. <br />--<br />It is not surprising that people, after using online dating sites for a while, revert to saying little about themselves as it will quickly limit your target audience in unpredictable ways. <br />--<br />I would expect that those profiles, that exhibit a high social proof and hence receive a high number of favorites/email, would be getting a lot of that attention from individuals that are of lesser "quality". No one else, would be impressed by it. <br />--<br />Social proof works on this premise of the way humans think. The quality of information cam be superseded by the quantity of partial information. This trick is used heavily by marketing/government or any group trying to persuade another group. It only works on people with limited information on the subject matter.<br />--<br />This trick is even used quite heavily on online dating to sites to convince people online dating is an effective means of finding long term partners. POF is littered with little bits of partial information to convince people its' effective.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com